TransManNY, BottleCoffee

4 1 TransManNY - 74 points 6 years 200°
Yep, particularly the ones that say they won't date trans women.
Edit to add: I will keep the above but add one sorta note. Somebody who identifies as a lesbian and sees themselves
as attracted to femininity (and includes femininity from all genders) that I can sort of understand. OF lesbian-who:
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4 [1 BottieCoffee - Postiop /no T + 48 points 6 years ago
For me it only raises a red flag if they won't also date trans women. .
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4 1 AccordingRuin - 6 points 6 years 300
It sort of makes sense if they're thinking pre-op and aren't into dick in my opinion- preferences are part of orientation
for a lot of people after all. But not at all? Ehhhhhhih red flag.
(Though, again, people are free to examine their preferences and decide that everything that goes along with it;
statistically speaking; just isn't for them. I mean, I'm bi/pan but I still won't date women for a whole lotta reasons.)
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4 I TransManNY - 3 points 6 years 200
It only "makes sense” if you accept that the person with those "preferences" is transphobic.
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4 1 AccordingRuin - 6 points 6 years 300
1am trans. I would not date another trans person, no matter how attractive or awesome they might be as a person...
specifically because I have enough on my own plate struggling to transition and do not have the spoons/emotional
bandwidth/whatever to hand-hold them through theirs or the bullshit they would experience as a trans person in my
part of the world.
That's not invalidating their identity, that's admitting that we would make a really bad couple due to incompatibility
and I'm not willing to put another person through that no matter how cool they might be.
That's not transphobic. It's realistic.
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